Dear Grateful: Every time I write about thank-you notes in this column, I open up a tempest in a tea kettle in the responses. Well, call me a sachet of Earl Grey because I’m jumping in again.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who feels guilty for hosting a party but not inviting some friends to attend.

She didn’t want her creepy friend at her pajama party, so she lied to him. Is she a terrible person? Dear Eric: I frequently have gatherings at my house, most recently debate-watch parties. Close friends gather,

A had a pajama party to watch a recent political debate. When a male friend asked what I was doing for the event, I lied so I wouldn’t have to invite him. Was that wrong of me?

Then a guy I dearly love asked if he could come. All the girls said they would be fine with this because he is a sweetheart and not at all likely to be lecherous and inappropriate with ladies in pjs.

Then, I got a text from another guy friend asking if I was doing anything for the debate and I told him no. Although I love him like a cousin, he can be a bit creepy, like he makes sexual comments out of the blue for no reason.

All the girls said they would be fine with this because he is a sweetheart and not at all likely to be lecherous and inappropriate with ladies in PJs. Then, I got a text from another guy friend asking if I was doing anything for the debate,