I abhor this annual ritual. To me, the value in receiving gifts is the knowledge that the giver took the time and effort to ...

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Miss Manners is aware that this approach puts the focus on scheduling, not etiquette. But it will make the point that your time is valuable and not available on command. And that other members of the ...